We all know you can do your job admirably without the help of Essentially Men and our services. We have also noticed that men who support other men in the field spend so much of their time giving and find it sometimes difficult to look after themselves. In some sense "who looks after the looker afterers?"
It is a time of transition for masculinity in Western culture. Some of the norms of previous generations are now under scrutiny and it can be a confusing and challenging time especially for men as they adapt to the new norms as well as handle the fall out from the past.
So men come into your sphere of influence and it is your mission to find ways to help them. Traditionally you may sit down and talk through their issues and come up with some from of strategy appropriate to the issues presented.
Therapeutic interventions often suggest the therapist remains as neutral as possible. We find in working with men who come to us that this neutrality comes at a cost and sometimes this cost is quite high.
This workshop is part of the answer in that it provides a space for men to explore an issue whilst bringing their own responses to the process.
In this three day space there will be time to explore this mutual dynamic of interdependence, getting direct feedback from the men you are working with on your approach, the intervention and its purpose along with instant information on the outcome.
Our offering of training provides you, a man who supports men the opportunity to explore the relationship between how you operate in the world in relation to men who come seeking your support. It may be there are times and places that do not allow you to authentically respond to the call of support. For example you might notice in yourself the tendency towards martyrdom, this is not useful to you or to the men you support.
We will use your skills and life situations to explore this space, sometimes using methods developed in the Men Being Real weekend, and at other times taking the lead from some spontaneous welling up from within the group. it may be one on one with another man, it may be in larger group setting where the field of interaction is complex and multifaceted.
We will work together; sometimes you may be the facilitator of part of the space or the whole space, sometimes you will be the man coming to change his life and others will offer insights and guidance. There are no right or wrong ways to operate in this space, we are all learning together.
Who's it for?
Therapeutic interventions often suggest the therapist remains as neutral as possible. We find in working with men who come to us that this neutrality comes at a cost and sometime this cost is quite high. This workshop is part of the answer in that it provides a space for men who work with men to explore an issue whilst bringing their own responses to the process.
You will gain knowledge on how to hold a group of men. Plenty of opportunities to explore your edge, of being exposed and standing up.
We will use techniques for clearing with others, how to stand and work together to produce an outcome and how to support men in vulnerability. There will be time to reflect and to try new things in an environment of care and support.
The emptier the internal bucket is from past life's experiences the more intuitive, spontaneous, and profound the opportunity is to offer real guidance and long term change to both you and the men you work with.
We do not pretend to know all the answers, but we do know that providing a space for men to turn up, interact together to see patterns of behaviour, offers hope of lasting change. Give yourself the gift of some time and space to explore yourself.
Dates for 2020:
May Course : Due to Covid-19 this course has been postponed until 2 - 5 July, 2020
October Course : 15 - 18 October 2020
The training will kick off at 7.00pm sharp on Thursday night and run until 4pm on Sunday.
The Facilitation Training course is held at Karanga Campsite, 79 Te Henga Road, Waitakere Ranges.
Funding for this course is organised differently from other Essentially Men offerings. Men who attended the previous training courses have already paid for you to attend.
After the course we ask the men if they have found value in attending to make a donation they are comfortable with (Pay it Forward) towards the next course.