Sometimes in the cycle of living, loving and just plain surviving we men can lose ourselves. Complex events, relationships, parenting, life transitions, difficult emotions, or dull routine can leave us feeling disconnected, isolated and dissatisfied. Traditionally our culture calls on men to be strong - providers, protectors and achievers; and at the same time we are expected to be loving, emotionally open and available. We may admire the deeper friendships women seem to have but often don't know how to create the same for ourselves.
You may recognise below some of the issues which repeatedly arise for men:
Isolation and competitiveness.
Loneliness and lack of friendship with other men.
Numbness to your own feelings and difficulty in developing intimacy.
Emotional over-dependence on women.
Lack of positive masculine identity.
An un-nameable sense of loss due to the absence of fathering.
Cycles of control, depression, frustration and inappropriate expressions of anger.
Challenges in relationship and family life.
Questions of who am I and where am I going with my life? – especially in relation to midlife transitions.
There is another way. The codes of masculinity are changing and men are learning to go beyond the traditional mate-ship of pubs, clubs and sports. Increasingly men are getting together to examine who they are and what's important to them. In this process we are undergoing a powerful transformation.
Our workshop supports you as you break isolation and connect more fully to your identity as a man. You will become more available to your families, loved ones and communities, and more in touch with your purpose. You will become a better, partner, lover, father, friend and man.
When men come together in a group with the agreement to create safety and let down our guards, we can drop beneath the surface of our feelings in a way not normally allowed for men. We can attend to the memories with our fathers, mothers and significant others, which affect the way we relate in our present lives.
We can understand the roots of anger and depression and connect with our inner authority. Hearing men's stories helps us accept ourselves and teaches us how powerful good male support can be.
The Men Being Real weekend workshop is a safe place for men of diverse ethnic or spiritual backgrounds, or sexual orientation to communicate on an authentic valued level.
Who's it for?
Men Being Real is for any man who knows he could get more out of life. Whether your life is working well or you have some things to sort out, you will find this weekend workshop a powerful journey of personal discovery. It provides help and growth for men of all ages – for younger men making their way in the world, midlife men in transition, and older men moving to the next stage of their life. The programme works for men at beginning, intermediate or advanced levels of personal growth experience.
Thousands of men from all over New Zealand and from all walks of life have found this outstanding programme a powerful catalyst for renewal and change for more than 20 years. So will you. You will deeply understand yourself and will leave with the freedom to be the authentic you. This is a potent experience that will wake you up, give you skills, and change your life.
7 reasons why it makes sense:
Keep your life on track with a whole new set of skills.
Improve your ability to express feelings and relate to loved ones.
Expand your sense of self and inner direction.
Learn how to break patterns that are holding you back.
Feel valued, honoured and understood.
Develop confidence and self-acceptance in navigating change and transition.
Become a better partner, lover, parent, friend, and man.
You’ll feel safe, discover trust with men and be empowered to communicate on an authentic level.
Supporting the changes
Following the weekend workshop you’ll have the opportunity to attend what IGNITION (an integration group) one evening per week over a period of 5 or 6 weeks.
Ignition will :
reinforce personal insights and changes from the weekend
provide an environment in which to practice new communication skills introduced over the weekend
deepen friendships and connections with other like-minded men
create a personal support group to foster the giving and receiving of support
integrate the learning and experiences of the weekend into everyday life.
The insights and growth you gain on the weekend are often huge and we’ve consistently found that men who attend these follow up nights go on to make the insights a long term change for the better in their daily lives and relationships with partners, kids and other men.
Dates for 2020: Due to Covid-19 the workshop dates have changed and will be confirmed once we reach Level 1. At present the following dates are what we anticipate will be correct.
MBR115 : August 21 - 23, 2020 - Now Full
MBR116 : November 6 - 8, 2020
MBR117 : March 19 - 21, 2021
MBR118 : June 11 - 13, 2021