Where to get help
If it is an emergency and you feel like you or someone else is at risk or in danger, call 111.
Where to Get Help
Lifeline: 0800 543 354 (available 24/7)
Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO) (available 24/7)
Depression helpline: 0800 111 757 (available 24/7) or free text 4202
Sexuality or gender identity
For Children & Youth
Youthline: 0800 376 633
Kidsline: 0800 543 754 (available 24/7)
Whatsup: 0800 942 8787 (1pm to 11pm)
Parent Help: 0800 568 856
Family Services 211 Helpline: 0800 211 211
Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence
Sexual Harm Helpline: 0800 044 334 available 24 hours a day / 7 days a week
Are You Okay: 0800 456 450
Shine: 0508 744 633
Samaritans: 0800 726 666
Victim Support : 0800 842 846 (24hr service)
The Harbour : online support and information for people affected by sexual abuse
Women’s Refuge : (Females only) – crisis line available on 0800 733 843
Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Trust: (Males only) – Helplines across NZ, click to find out more
Wellington HELP: (all genders) – 04 801 6655 – 0 for the 24/7 crisis line
Auckland HELP: (all genders) – 09 623 1700 for the 24/7 support line
Male Support Services (Waikato): – supporting males with physical, mental, emotional, domestic or sexual abuse experiences.
Other Support Networks
Hamilton Men’s Circle
We are a group of men from the Waikato region from all walks of life who are part of the Essentially Men network who meet on a regular basis to provide support for each other and our community. We are inclusive – any man is welcome – fostering local men’s work through regular meetings and gatherings. Contact : Hamilton Men
Wellington Men’s Groups
To build connection, strengthen our network amongst men, and forge friendships. We hope this will be the renewal of a healthy, thriving community that will serve men.
A Men's circle is held each 2nd Wednesday of the month, except January, from 7pm to 9pm. Stephen Harrison and Peter Crosland each have more than 20 years experience in men's work. One or both of them will be present for each session. If you have any questions about the Men's Circle and what to expect, or if it is right for you, contact either
Men's Group in Wellington
Our Men’s Group formed out of former attendees of Essentially Men and has been running for 20 years. We are open to men who are working on their personal development and are interested in joining like-minded men. We help men share what is important to them. We meet 2nd and 4th Thursday of every month, 7.30pm – 9.30pm. Contact: Gordon (022 698 4020) or Tamash (021 071 335) email@example.com
North of Auckland Men’s Groups
There are two Whangarei Men’s groups. The first has been running for about four years and is full, having reached its natural maximum of eight men. The second began meeting in March 2015 and welcomes enquiries from interested men. Both groups meet fortnightly and rotate the venue between members homes. There is also a Kerikeri Men’s group that meets fortnightly.
The groups aim to provide a forum for men to discover a deeper reality, to share and to support each other. The emphasis is on personal development, growth and learning. Contact : Richard Aplin
ChangeWorks is dedicated to providing excellence in all areas of youth and family services. Their goal is for an ‘abuse-free community’. It was formed in 2006 to work collaboratively alongside both government and non-government organisations, providing special programs to help young men and women to develop skilled, positive long term relationships within their communities, their families and themselves. See: changeworks.org.nz
An Auckland based charity that supports men and children who have experienced childhood sexual trauma. They have provided support in Auckland since 2007. Their service is confidential, independent and free of charge. They offer individual One2One peer support meetings and Peer Support Groups. See: betterblokes.org.nz
Canterbury Men’s Centre
Provides one to one support, helping a man set his goals and pointing him in the right direction. Also runs projects for men such as Men’s Sheds and men’s health events. See: canmen.org.nz
Imago Institute For Relationships NZ
Couples training developed by Harville Hendrix presented by certified Imago presenters Peter McMillan and Brenda Rawlings. Excellent practical training and deepening for any relationship. See: relationships.co.nz
Kidz Need Dadz
Kids need two loving and supportive parents in their lives – whether the family all lives under the same roof or not. That’s where we come in.
For all sorts of reasons, dads are often not in the picture. We help dads play an active part in their kids’ lives. As well as supporting fathers, we educate the broader community about the need for dads to be involved with their children. From parenting courses, to organising events, to helping with legal advice and mentoring, we’re here to help.
See: kidzneeddadz.org.nz for more information.
ManAlive – Henderson, Auckland & Whangarei
A men’s centre offering counselling, boys and youth programmes, anger management and parenting courses for men. See: manalive.org.nz
Big Buddy Auckland
Big Buddy matches well-screened volunteer male mentors with fatherless boys aged approx. 7-14yo. Men can volunteer to be a part of the Big Buddy Mentoring scheme. See: bigbuddy.org.nz
Tracks Trust – Golden Bay
Tracks is a registered Charitable Trust based in Golden Bay that specialises in assisting young men to make the fundamental, emotional and psychological shift from child to young adult. Their community led camps are designed as a powerful rite of passage for boys and their families. See: tracks.net.nz for more.
Great Fathers is a national initiative encouraging new dads to get involved and engaged with their baby. We are child-centred but father-focused. We primarily work through the parenting support sector to help existing service providers to offer good support to new dads. See: greatfathers.org.nz